Sunday, August 23, 2015
A reader asked me to write some survival tips when you are surrounded by fruitcake priests misleading and endangering souls (and the bishop is an absent father).
We went through a rough spell here in Boston for a while. A decade or two of seminary graduates from the St. John Paul II papacy has cleaned things up quite a bit. Having good blogs to expose the nutty conduct also helped to squish the bugs.
I couldn't count the number of Masses I walked out of during that time. We had a priest here who threw trash in the Sanctuary and shot off blanks in a gun in the Sanctuary. I kid you not. They were completely out of control.
My children heard and saw so much damaging stuff, my resentment from the inability to correct the misunderstandings given to them by priests was so hot, there was a time when I couldn't bring myself to go. I remember kneeling in prayer or sitting in the pews with the children hoping and praying the priest wouldn't say something heretical. When they did, I'd have steam coming out of my ears. I wasn't able to prayerfully enter into the mystical prayer to Golgotha. I'd come home, send emails, make phone calls to the Chancery about what transpired. Spiritually, I was worse off when I went then when I stayed home.
My tolerance for nonsense grew to be extremely low. The pinnacle was the time I walked out of two Masses in one day, children in tow, and I almost walked out of the third. A good friend pointed out that I had to learn to discipline myself to let the little stuff go. And he was right.
I can't think of an example of the little stuff that would set me off, but our TTC friend wrote something about seeing a pic of Pope Francis in the Church being enough. This is a good example of the spiritual post-traumatic stress syndrome that develops in a family that experienced toxic behavior of priests and parishioners who don't want practicing Catholics around. That is a big part of the story, isn't it. The shocking abusive conduct towards a family that came to Church to have what they are teaching at home affirmed. (otherwise the children think we are teaching our own values which even the Church doesn't believe.)
When they bring an ex priest living with their lover to come and talk to the CCD class about how wrong Church teaching is on moral theology, we are the last people they want around. We're going to call the Chancery and the program is going to be cancelled. I won't get into the details of the toxic conduct from the heretics - suffice it to say, they make it clear they don't want us around and they make a point to tell our children their parents are bad people.
This is really the crux of the problem with Pope Francis, isn't it?
His conduct is that of the typical pastor who wants to bring in the heretics to teach our family, and when we point out the spiritual malpractice, he's written a book of insults to give witness to our children that we are antiquated sourpusses who can't enjoy a little clapping fornication. He has shipwrecked thirty years of catechesis in the family and parishes trying to help us navigate through the clapping fornication they are drilling into children at schools and the culture. On top of the bozo the clown act, he is surrounding our children with the clapping fornication show and culture of death and applauding it on the sidelines.
An absolute shipwreck that will take a generation to recover -- some of our own children will be swept away and he's fixed it so there is little we are able to do.
I did rebuild my tolerance for the liturgical nonsense, so long as the Mass was valid. I remain intolerant of heresy and to this day, make the phone calls to the Chancery, follow the protocol all the way up to the Holy See, expose it on the blog so others can avoid the danger.
All this is to say - I am very familiar with your situation.
The most important advice I can give you is, you have to let the little stuff go and concentrate on mystical prayer. You are most likely overreacting to stuff you should be able to tolerate to receive the Divinity of Christ and Sacraments.
Find a priest in a parish who is the least dangerous - find a good prayer book, bring your Rosary and learn to return your concentration to the mystical prayers of the Mass - the presence of the Angels and Saints and what is happening to Christ, the gift He brings. Use the Sacrament of Confession each time you feel like you want to punch them in the nose. Then try again. Keep at it.
I would also look in small hospital chapels or orders for a good priest. There is always a few hiding under the radar.
Under no circumstances should you take your family to a disobedient priest holed up in a hotel room or some other facility, saying a Latin Mass. Those individuals, including SSPX, do not have faculties to absolve sins and most of them will simulate that Sacrament.
Remain anchored to Christ's Church come what may.
These are my early-Sunday morning thoughts and hope they are helpful.